I’m Rod Phillips. From working with hundreds of men over the years, I know that men with delayed ejaculation have a lot of characteristics in common…. and while not all men will recognize themselves in what I talk about below, you’ll probably find something here which makes you think “Hmmm…that might be me!”
And the great thing about my treatment program is that it can help you with any or all of these challenges. You can read about it now – click here or on the words SELF HELP TREATMENT on the menu bar above this text.
To start with, many men with delayed ejaculation have some difficulty with expressing how they feel (but then, don’t all men?!) and they often keep their emotions firmly under wraps.
It might even be frightening to think of exploring your emotions, or it might be something you haven’t done much of in your life.
But no matter how unattractive a prospect it may be to explore your feelings, it can be done in a safe way, a way that avoids conflict, and leads to much better sex with your partner, not to mention a much better relationship in general.
Treatment Is Easier Than You Can Imagine
DE is a common problem – certainly much more common than people believe. I believe about 1 man in 12 experiences it to some degree. When you think about it, this amounts to millions of men in America alone, and hundreds of millions of men throughout the world.
Why, then, is delayed ejaculation so little talked about, and so little known? It’s probably because it seems like a very embarrassing problem – we can all understand men who get frustrated because they ejaculate too quickly during sex, but for a man to be unable to ejaculate when he’s making love to his partner can be very hard to understand.
In the not-so-recent past, the term retarded ejaculation was used by doctors to describe difficulty in ejaculating. But whatever you call it makes no difference: for those men who have difficulty achieving the ultimate pleasure of sex, any delay in ejaculation is, not put too fine a point on it, a pain in the ass!
My treatment program consists of a packed 50 page eBook, with a whole load of supplementary information about sexual techniques. Check it out by clicking on the link at the top of the page.
The eBook itself is full of information about why men have ejaculatory problems. There are many causes of this problem (ranging from a man relying too much on fantasy to get aroused, through to unexpressed hostility or anger against his sexual partner), and I explain them all….. this takes up the first part of the eBook, but you might want to jump straight to the treatment methods, which are explained in great detail in the second half of the publication.
What’s In My Treatment Program?
All kinds of good stuff, including relaxation exercises, intimacy exercises to bring you emotionally closer to your partner; stroking, fondling and caressing exercises that will allow you to experience much higher levels of arousal in your body; all kinds of techniques and strategies to make sexual arousal more exciting so you can ejaculate more easily; and a complete program to allow you to improve the quality of your sex life once you are able to ejaculate.
Here’s a video about treatment
Many men’s favorite is the genital massage exercises, which most men and their partners find extremely exciting; this often leads to ejaculation during intercourse very quickly. Men tell me how much they enjoy it – you probably will too!
Does it work? Well, yes. A BIG YES!!!
Men tell me it cures delayed ejaculation and gives them a normal sex life, often after they’ve “suffered” decades of adult life without satisfactory sex.
You might be interested in this video, basic though it is. If you have any questions about the suggestions made in it, feel free to contact me to discuss them. (Details on the contact page.)
Thoughts About The Causes & Treatment Of Delayed Ejaculation
Some men with delayed ejaculation have slightly ambivalent feelings about sex because of things that happened in their past.
This may or may not have been outright abuse; it may have been some negative sexual experience, perhaps in childhood, perhaps later, which has affected their ability to fully enjoy sex and get “into the moment” with their partner.
If this might be true for you, then, maybe it is important to examine the links between these past life experiences and the sexual issues which you face today.
Even if you can’t see much of a connection between the past and present as far as your sex life is concerned, sometimes your past experience will be having a major effect on your ability to complete lovemaking.
You can explore these issues in a powerful yet safe way, and I’ll show you how in the treatment program. You will be able to see at a glance what treatment strategy is best for you.
Other men with delayed ejaculation may have somehow missed out on “normal” sexual experiences as they were growing up, or maybe the experiences they had were just disappointing.
The way to deal with this kind of thing is to learn some new sexual techniques — tips and tricks which are easy and enjoyable and will vastly increase your enjoyment of sex, your chance of having an orgasm, and your partner’s enjoyment of sex.
As you can see, delayed ejaculation is sometimes produced by a combination of several factors. The end result, though, is that you “hold back” your ejaculation during sex, for one reason or another. There are other causes, too.
Some men can’t ejaculate because when they were teenagers they masturbated with such pressure and force on their penis that they “conditioned” their body only to ejaculate in response to extreme levels of stimulation. During intercourse you don’t get anything like this level of pressure on your penis, hence there’s no ejaculation and intercourse goes on for ages and ages…..
Fortunately, training yourself to ejaculate with less pressure and normal levels of stimulation isn’t difficult, although it may take a little while, and require a certain amount of patience.
There’s yet another aspect to delayed ejaculation: as a sex therapist and counselor, I always try to look at the thoughts, fantasies and feelings going around in a man’s mind when he’s thinking about sex, having sex, and when he’s with a partner making love.
What seems to happen for a lot of men with DE is that in some way they’re “stuck” in their fantasies, and they just don’t make the transition to interacting fully with their partner during lovemaking. It’s almost as though their fantasies are a more important source of sexual stimulation than their real-world partner.
In my system of treatment, there are several techniques which enable a man to focus fully on his partner AND feel safe and be able to enjoy sex. These are a vital part of the treatment, because only when you feel safe will you be able to “let go” fully – whatever that means for you……
Sidebar: Have a look at this video about the causes of delayed ejaculation